Written by Lisa Maria Ochoa
“Leave me alone!” “Get out of my room!” “Your so annoying dumb boys!!” “Mom, the boys are bothering me!” These are just a few of my daughter’s favorite phrases when talking about her brothers. You see, God blessed our family with 6 children, 1 beautiful girl and 5 rambunctious boys. While I know that having so many brothers has not been easy nor will it continue to be easy for my daughter I do hope that she learns a few things along the way to help her be successful in the future.
My Darling Daughter,
You are my best friend and your daddy’s princess. Even though you may not think it now, you are your brothers’ most prized treasure as well. And while I know that at times (okay let’s be real like 99.9% of the time) you find them obnoxious, I do hope you learn a few things from them as you are growing up.
- I hope they teach you to speak up for what you want. I know you are learning this already because I can say that you are definitely a master of arguing your way out of anything.
- I hope this helps you out in the future when it comes to voicing your opinion. Please do not allow yourself to be intimidated. I have seen your brothers try to do this in hopes of getting their way, but you don’t allow it to happen in any way, shape or form. I hope that you use this in your life to build a strong no-nonsense character.
- In this day and age you need to be resourceful. I know that being the only girl you have quickly learned that being bossy gets you nowhere with your brothers. You have learned to be resourceful and find a way to get out of tricky situations. I hope you use this is your life because sometimes we need to think out of the box.
- In life it is important that you be able to hold your own. This, my daughter, I know you can do because you have been roughhousing with your siblings since you were 2 and let me tell you YOU CAN definitely hold your own. It is important that you continue to do this throughout your life. I hope you use these experiences to be a problem solver and know that physical strength does not always have an upper hand.
- It is important in life that you be strong both emotionally and physically. Growing up with as many brothers as you have, it will be an important lesson to learn. You have to be strong and not fall for anything. Your brothers will teach you this.
- They will also teach you to be a leader. My daughter, it is without a doubt that you have and will continue to develop thick skin. This has helped mold you into a leader, and I hope you continue to be a leader as you go through life. I hope you excel in leadership skills thanks to the leading you are providing your brothers.
- Please remember to never stop being patient. You are the most reasonable of the 6 and your patience with your brothers will help you grow. I hope you use your experience dealing with your brothers when they are acting foolish to help you learn how to level with difficult personalities instead of simply getting frustrated.
- I know that it goes without saying that being the only girl among so many boys they will without a doubt teach you to be a fighter (both literally and figuratively). Yet because you are a girl you will do this all while still being a kind soul. I have seen you fight with your brothers to get her way. But on the heels of that, I have seen your worry about them, tend to them when they are sad or hurt. I hope you use these experiences to learn that you have to be both a fighter and a lover at times. Don’t ever forget to be kind.
- In all the things your brothers will teach you please know that despite the fact that your brothers get on your very last nerve they will love and protect you always. I hope you do know that they will always be there for you through thick and thin. They will be there to fight alongside you.
Love Always,
Mommy
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Aww these are such great things to learn! I hope when I have kids I have boys first to teach the girls. Love the post!
How sweet! And how nice that you see your daughter’s older brothers as the ones that will show her the way.
Your daughter is very fortunate to have brothers. I am sure they will always look after her and protect her their whole life.
This so awesome! Oh we only want the best for our kids. This is so sweet.
That’s a wonderful message to send to her and that she can reread again and again. Five brothers! I have one and that was enough!
I love this! I was the only girl and had brothers so I know how she feels. But one day they will stand up for her and love and protect her and she will be so proud of them. I love having brothers!
It’s so nice to have brothers even if they can be a pain sometimes, lol. I think it’s awesome because you have instant body guards who’ll protect you wherever you are. It’s also nice because you’ll get used to how boys are that you won’t be intimidated by them.
This letter is so touching.Yes,in future your daughter will appreciate for having such brothers for her.She is so lucky to grow up with them.
Beautiful. I know that is not a sentence but reading this made me feel hopeful for our children. It was a beautiful letter.
With all those brothers, I am sure she will learn all those lessons and more. She is going to be one tough little cookie 🙂
This was lovely! There is something special about the bond between siblings, and they can really teach each other so much! My daughter loves her little brother and I hope that bond continues their whole lives
I hope they learn these lessons too. You have lovely kids.
What a great post! Girls raised with a predominantly male fam learn to resourceful & independent women.I know from personal experience!
This is such a sweet post! I’m sure they’ll teach her so much–and they’ll protect her, that’s for sure!
Parenting is so hard! Everyday is an adventure! I love your hopes for your children!
This is such a heartwarming letter. I am sure that all of these things will happen. She has her brothers to protect her, always.
Wow. This made me tear up a little. This is amazing. What a wonderful mom you are to write this all down for your daughter. She is going to really appreciate this one day!
I have one daughter and one son currently. I hope that my daughter teaches my son to treat girls nicely. I hope my son teaches my daughter to be tough.
This is so sweet! When I was young I want to have a brother because I know that they are protective of their sisters.
Aww I love this so much! We are talking about possibly having one more kiddo and we already have 3 boys. I would love to see what they would teach a sister.
Thank you Charlene:)
Yes Allison I think siblings teach each other alot in life. They help mold who they become.
Yes, Lisa we tell her the same thing we hope.
Yes, Amber as a parent we want the best for them.
Thank you Terri! LOL yes brothers are something else.
That is my hope Heather!
Yes, Karen I agree it is very good for her.
Thank you Amila:)
Thank you Benita!
Yes Robin that is my hope for her.
Yes, Jessica siblings have a very special bond and we can only hope that bonds grows as the years go on.
Thank you Sue!
That’s great to hear Hunter!
Thank you Amber! I hope they do have a strong bond as they grow.
Yes, Reesa parenting really is an adventure.
Thank you Joanna:)
Awww thank you Katie!
That’s great Heather!
Yes, Ruth they are.
Yes, Brittany it is exciting to see what they teach each other.
When your daughter starts dating, I feel so bad for her future ‘boyfriend’. He will probably have to be friends with her brothers to even get close to her. AND she will know how to protect herself even though her brothers will over-protect her.
These are all wonderful things to have your daughter learn. I think them teaching her how to be a leader is going to be a skill that will help her quite a bit in her life.
This is so cute and sweet. My brother is younger than me and he alway says he is the older brother he is the protector. I love him so much thought.
How awesome it is to have brothers! 🙂 I totally looking forward to having more kids.
Such beautiful thoughts and wishes for your daughter! There’s so much brothers and sisters can learn from one another.
Wow this is a really sweet message to your daughter. I am an only child so I can’t really relate on having brothers and sisters.
I know right!!! But yes that is my hope for her.
I do believe so.
Aww too sweet. But yes I think brothers younger or older have that protector inside them.
Yes it is an adventure!
Thank you and yes I agree siblings teach each other so much!
Thank you!
I have two kids and they are a handful. I just can’t imagine how I can do it with more than two. I understand why your daughter gets frustrated by her brothers. It can be difficult to be the only daughter in a family with so many kids. It’s great that you are able to encourage your daughter to look at the positive things. Great job.
Aww how sweet <3 I'm the oldest sister with 2 naughty younger brothers. When we were young, I used to hate them a lot because they were so annoyed and brought to me many troubles. Now I'm 20 and they are in high school, many things have been changed. Although they're still very naughty but I love them more. I think your daughter will be like me, hope so haha.
Thank your for your sweet sharing.
I have 2 boys and 2 girls and they learn a lot from each other which is amazing! I love these lessons that you posted. My youngest is a girl and I hope she learns these from her two brothers!
With a little one on the way … our first too, I hope he/she learns those 9 things someday too. I am sure your little princess will learn all of which and more. Instantly have someone to lean on to as she is growing up.
Though we may not always realize it, but how we deal with our siblings while growing up goes a long way in character building and creating a bond that lasts us a lifetime. This letter to your daughter isn’t only touching but teaches your kids to look beyond the obvious in any situation and get life lessons from them…loved your perspective on life’s challenges, no matter how big or small they are.
I have six daughters. I cannot even imagine how the dynamics of our household would have changed if one of them had been a boy!
This is so sweet! I’m sure your boys will live up to all of those and will teach your daughter to grow up to be an amazing woman!
Wow 5 boys has got to be crazy. I cannot imagine. My dad grew up in a family of 6 kids too. Four of them were sisters, so it was quite different for him. But one day he told me that the great thing about growing up in a big family is that you get used to lots of different personality types early on.
This is the sweetest. I have only one brother and he’s truly the best. He’s always been my protector and confidant. So very thankful to have him in my life. x
These are great tips. Having siblings are great and they teach us so many life lessons. Thanks for sharing.
I have one of each and my youngest is ALWAYS bothering my oldest. She moans about it all the time, but she loves the attention really. And I very often go upstairs at night to find she’s invited him to sleep over in her room. I think they’ll learn a lot from each other 🙂
Louise x
I love your tips and have definitely used them growing up with taller and stronger twin brother. I learned he gets away with a lot and manages to get me caught. I found ways to hide and be different from him. I carved my own path.
I love this post to your daughter. I think these are great things for a girl in an all-boy family to learn….or any girl at that!
This is a beautiful post! I feel for her though. It must be hard with so many boys around. Luckily she has you.
This was so sweet. The relationship between a brother and sister is such a special one! My brother is 7 years younger than me, and we fought ALL the time! but now that’s he’s 17, we get along so much better and we can relate on things so much easier! You have a beautiful family, by the way!
I loved this, it was very sweet and sentimental. I think when she looks back and read this she will realize that she has done a few of those things. She may be the only girl but she will be very well protected.